I can't believe we associate...
This guy I know royally pissed me off today. He has, in fact, done so quite often in the past month.
Among his little turds of wisdom are the following:
1. Ex criminals are all worthless slime who were too lazy/stupid/whatever to do something decent with their lives. Oh, and they're all cowards because they wouldn't (not couldn't - WOULDN'T) find any way to solve their problems legally.
2. Homosexuals are only gay because there is something abnormal in their brain, and medical science will probably create some wonder drug that will "cure" them of their like of the same sex.
3. Transgender people are all mentally ill and should be locked up in an institution and "given help" for their insanity.
4. Any job that does not require at least a high school diploma (not a GED, mind) is not a real job, and is only fit for stupid people who are too lazy/dumb to better themselves. This, of course, means that he is above them and "a better person" than they are.
5. Along with #4, he feels that anyone who has only a GED (or less) should simply be unemployed. I don't know what he expects them to do, or how he expects that he wouldn't have to pay taxes to feed/clothe/house them, but whatever.
All those words - abnormal, and mentally ill, and insanity - were verbatim. He stated them over and over again. And he wonders why I consider him completely closed minded. Oh. And an asshole.
But you know, I'm used to all that. I'm used to him being that way about things he doesn't understand (mostly because he can't relate because he's never been in the same situation). But there was one thing tonight that REALLY pissed me off.
Keeping this short, because it's past my bedtime and I'm tired.
(This is not verbatim)
Me: You shouldn't say transgender people are mentally ill, because while some might be that doesn't necessarily hold true for all of them. People have called me mentally ill, too, because they think it's wrong that I am how I am. It's not right.
Him: *Makes some comment about how I wouldn't do this certain thing*
Me: Actually, I would. *Launches calmly into a brief story to illustrate my point and show him that he's wrong*
Him: *Comments again that I wouldn't do this thing*
Me: *Gets pissed off, repeats AGAIN why he's wrong* (I will take a lot of things. Someone telling me I'm wrong about my own beliefs/thoughts/feelings is not one of them.)
Him: *Gets pissed off at ME for being irrational.* If you had stated it calmly, I'd have listened. But since you didn't... blah blah blah.
Yeah, I admit. I was irrational. But only AFTER I stated my case and he STILL told me I was wrong about my own fucking feelings. Then he goes on about how he doesn't need my drama. I'll freely admit I got upset, but I want HIM to acknowledge the fact that he wasn't listening anyway, and was still refusing to even notice that I knew what I was talking about the first time. If he had just accepted my answer, that would've been the end of it. But of course it's all *my* fault that I got pissed off, and his comment had nothing whatsoever to do with it.
Whatever.
He also, at some point, asked me why I talk to him if I dislike what he says so much.
My answer?
You know, given how you are toward me, sometimes I wonder.
Asshole.
[Edit: There are actually two things that, now that I've gone back and reread what I wrote, I want to make a bit clearer.
1) When I say I hate when people say I'm wrong about things I think/feel/believe, I don't mean, "I think your opinion is incorrect." What I mean is when I say "I really loved/hated/whatever [thing]", and they say, "No you didn't." How the bloody fuck are you going to tell me how I felt about something?
2) I know that the back and forth about tonight was a little ambiguous. I wrote it that way on purpose, because the subject is not common knowledge and I'd like to keep it that way. Sorry if it's a bit too hard to follow, but I'm afraid you'll just have to deal.]
Among his little turds of wisdom are the following:
1. Ex criminals are all worthless slime who were too lazy/stupid/whatever to do something decent with their lives. Oh, and they're all cowards because they wouldn't (not couldn't - WOULDN'T) find any way to solve their problems legally.
2. Homosexuals are only gay because there is something abnormal in their brain, and medical science will probably create some wonder drug that will "cure" them of their like of the same sex.
3. Transgender people are all mentally ill and should be locked up in an institution and "given help" for their insanity.
4. Any job that does not require at least a high school diploma (not a GED, mind) is not a real job, and is only fit for stupid people who are too lazy/dumb to better themselves. This, of course, means that he is above them and "a better person" than they are.
5. Along with #4, he feels that anyone who has only a GED (or less) should simply be unemployed. I don't know what he expects them to do, or how he expects that he wouldn't have to pay taxes to feed/clothe/house them, but whatever.
All those words - abnormal, and mentally ill, and insanity - were verbatim. He stated them over and over again. And he wonders why I consider him completely closed minded. Oh. And an asshole.
But you know, I'm used to all that. I'm used to him being that way about things he doesn't understand (mostly because he can't relate because he's never been in the same situation). But there was one thing tonight that REALLY pissed me off.
Keeping this short, because it's past my bedtime and I'm tired.
(This is not verbatim)
Me: You shouldn't say transgender people are mentally ill, because while some might be that doesn't necessarily hold true for all of them. People have called me mentally ill, too, because they think it's wrong that I am how I am. It's not right.
Him: *Makes some comment about how I wouldn't do this certain thing*
Me: Actually, I would. *Launches calmly into a brief story to illustrate my point and show him that he's wrong*
Him: *Comments again that I wouldn't do this thing*
Me: *Gets pissed off, repeats AGAIN why he's wrong* (I will take a lot of things. Someone telling me I'm wrong about my own beliefs/thoughts/feelings is not one of them.)
Him: *Gets pissed off at ME for being irrational.* If you had stated it calmly, I'd have listened. But since you didn't... blah blah blah.
Yeah, I admit. I was irrational. But only AFTER I stated my case and he STILL told me I was wrong about my own fucking feelings. Then he goes on about how he doesn't need my drama. I'll freely admit I got upset, but I want HIM to acknowledge the fact that he wasn't listening anyway, and was still refusing to even notice that I knew what I was talking about the first time. If he had just accepted my answer, that would've been the end of it. But of course it's all *my* fault that I got pissed off, and his comment had nothing whatsoever to do with it.
Whatever.
He also, at some point, asked me why I talk to him if I dislike what he says so much.
My answer?
You know, given how you are toward me, sometimes I wonder.
Asshole.
[Edit: There are actually two things that, now that I've gone back and reread what I wrote, I want to make a bit clearer.
1) When I say I hate when people say I'm wrong about things I think/feel/believe, I don't mean, "I think your opinion is incorrect." What I mean is when I say "I really loved/hated/whatever [thing]", and they say, "No you didn't." How the bloody fuck are you going to tell me how I felt about something?
2) I know that the back and forth about tonight was a little ambiguous. I wrote it that way on purpose, because the subject is not common knowledge and I'd like to keep it that way. Sorry if it's a bit too hard to follow, but I'm afraid you'll just have to deal.]
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